Emotionally Focused couples counsellor

You didn’t fall out of love. You lost the map back to each other.

Emotionally Focused Therapy based couples counselling and relationship therapy via Zoom, in Wellington, and in Hawke's Bay.

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You are not alone

Do Any of These Feel a Little Too Close to Home?

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You love each other but keep getting stuck in the same arguments — and nothing ever seems to resolve.

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The distance between you has been growing and you don't know how to close it.

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An affair has come to light — and you don't know whether you can come back from it, only that you can't stay where you are.

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Trust has been broken and you don't know how to move forward.

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You've tried couples therapy before and something didn't quite reach you.

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At least one of you isn't sure whether to stay or go.

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All relationship distress is, at its root, an attachment story. My work is to help you understand yours - and write a better one.
Sabrina

You are not alone

Do Any of These Feel a Little Too Close to Home?

01

You love each other but keep getting stuck in the same arguments — and nothing ever seems to resolve.

02

The distance between you has been growing and you don't know how to close it.

03

An affair has come to light — and you don't know whether you can come back from it, only that you can't stay where you are.

04

Trust has been broken and you don't know how to move forward.

05

You've tried couples therapy before and something didn't quite reach you.

06

At least one of you isn't sure whether to stay or go.

a man sitting at a table talking to a woman
All relationship distress is, at its root, an attachment story. My work is to help you understand yours - and write a better one.
Sabrina

You are not alone

Do Any of These Feel a Little Too Close to Home?

01

You love each other but keep getting stuck in the same arguments — and nothing ever seems to resolve.

02

The distance between you has been growing and you don't know how to close it.

03

An affair has come to light — and you don't know whether you can come back from it, only that you can't stay where you are.

04

Trust has been broken and you don't know how to move forward.

05

You've tried couples therapy before and something didn't quite reach you.

06

At least one of you isn't sure whether to stay or go.

a man sitting at a table talking to a woman
All relationship distress is, at its root, an attachment story. My work is to help you understand yours - and write a better one.
Sabrina

HOW I WORK

My Approach

Most couples arrive having tried, for a long time, to fix things alone. What they find here isn't new techniques it's a different understanding of what's been happening underneath, where real change takes hold.

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The Gold Standard

Evidence-based and deeply researched — Emotionally Focused Therapy is one of the most rigorously studied approaches to couples therapy in the world.

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The Gold Standard

Evidence-based and deeply researched — Emotionally Focused Therapy is one of the most rigorously studied approaches to couples therapy in the world.

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Attachment-informed

All relationship distress is, at its root, an attachment story. I help couples and families understand theirs — and write a better one.

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Attachment-informed

All relationship distress is, at its root, an attachment story. I help couples and families understand theirs — and write a better one.

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For the Ones Who've Tried

If previous therapy didn't quite reach you, Emotionally Focused Therapy works differently. It goes deeper. That's what it's designed to do.

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For the Ones Who've Tried

If previous therapy didn't quite reach you, Emotionally Focused Therapy works differently. It goes deeper. That's what it's designed to do.

"Your emotional signals are the music to your dance. When they get distorted, you stop hearing each other. My job is to help you tune back in."
Sabrina

Meet Your Therapist

I'm Sabrina Barbara Grabow

Relationships are the most important and the most complicated thing in most people's lives. I came to this work through twenty years of portrait photography and a decade in high-pressure crisis roles — learning to read emotional worlds, stay steady under strain, and see what was real beneath what was presented. It turns out that's exactly what couples in distress need.

I'm an Emotionally Focused Therapy-trained couples counsellor and a Life Member of ICEEFT — the international organisation founded by the late Dr. Sue Johnson that sets the standard for how Emotionally Focused Therapy is taught and practised worldwide. It works with the emotions and attachment needs underneath your arguments, not just the arguments themselves — because that's where the real work is.

Relationships are the most important and the most complicated thing in most people's lives. I came to this work through twenty years of portrait photography and a decade in high-pressure crisis roles — learning to read emotional worlds, stay steady under strain, and see what was real beneath what was presented. It turns out that's exactly what couples in distress need.

I'm an Emotionally Focused Therapy-trained couples counsellor and a Life Member of ICEEFT — the international organisation founded by the late Dr. Sue Johnson that sets the standard for how Emotionally Focused Therapy is taught and practised worldwide. It works with the emotions and attachment needs underneath your arguments, not just the arguments themselves — because that's where the real work is.

  • ICEEFT Life Member

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy-trained

  • NMAS Accredited Mediator

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Years working one-to-one with people

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People I've worked with closely

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Languages - English & German

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Sabrina Barbara Grabow

How I Can Help

Services Designed for Every Stage of Your Relationship

Real Stories

Words from the Couples I've Had the Honour of Working With

We came to Dr. Mitchell as a last resort. Two years later we're stronger than we've ever been. She gave us tools we still use every single day.

James & Claire, London

The premarital counseling sessions with Dr. Mitchell were the best investment we made before our wedding. We understood each other on a completely different level.

Michael & Priya, Manchester

I was skeptical about therapy but Dr. Mitchell made us both feel so safe and heard from the very first session. Genuinely life changing.

David & Sarah, Birmingham

Clients' reflections coming soon...